Getting a blowjob from the woman you love is like dream for most men. So you can teach her to give you the best oral sex of your life.
Your partner may have the best of intentions when it comes to oral sex, but there might be something she’s just missing.
Maybe her technique isn’t so great, maybe she’s timid, or maybe she doesn’t use enough variety. It may be intimidating for her to learn new blowjob techniques at first, but once she gets the hang of what stimulates you, she will feel like a sexual goddess knowing that she can make you come all by herself.
Oral sex on a male includes licking and sucking of the penis, balls, and anus. Fellatio is the term for the oral stimulation of the penis while analingus is the term for oral sex on the anus.
While blowjobs are considered rather exciting, “eating ass” and prostate stimulation are more of niche activity. Some men love it, while others could take it or leave it.
Keep in mind that every man is different. So just because what she is doing doesn’t take you to the roof DOESN’T MEAN SHE IS NOT GOOD or enthusiastic about giving your blowjob.
It could just mean she’s used to something different. The key is to get her to enjoy the act too and not just make it feel like a chore.
Starting preparations
The key to enjoyment for most men is whether she’s into it or not. Let’s face it, there’s a reason it’s called a blow “job”; it does entail some work and it can hurt her jaw if she goes at it long enough.
Even if she does enjoy performing oral sex, it can’t hurt to bump up her enthusiasm. How do you do that? Easy. When she’s down there savoring your man parts, tell her how hot she is and how turned you are. Act as her own personal cheerleader. The more excited you are, the more excited she will be to keep going.
Grunting, but out of sheer pleasure
This is not the time for her to keep quiet. Those gurgling, slurpy, sounds are undoubtedly hot.
Tell her how sexy she sounds moaning and groaning her enjoyment. And don’t forget to moan along with her so she feels more comfortable letting loose.
Keep looking
Eye contact is critical during oral sex. It makes all the difference between a so-so oral sex session and an amazing one. Eye contact says, “I’m confident!” “I’m so turned on!” “I’m so aroused and ready!” So tell her to look at you. Or lift her chin up and tell her you to love it when she looks at you.
Just bobbing up and down is about as interesting as eating the same chicken soup for dinner every night. It’s flat-out boring. She can move her lips. She can try deep throating. Or circling her tongue. Licking the shaft. This is not about just hopping from a move to move like an erratic robot.
Teach variety
However, she should be ready to pull out everything in her bag of blow job tricks. There are literally a million and one ways to mix up a blow job so encourage her to try new things.
Foreplay
She may be all ready for the main event, but that doesn’t mean she has to go right to it with no warm-up or foreplay.
After all, if you just wanted to focus on the act itself you could jerk off or watch porn on your own. You have a delicious willing partner, so the two of you can engage in extended play.
Let her scratch your thighs and lick them slowly. She can even start playing with you while you’re still in your boxers. Finesse and teasing go along way when it comes to a good session in the sack.
Before you begin, talk about what turns you on. Just going over some of the basics can get her ready for a great sex night.
Using hands makes a big difference
Just sucking you off with her mouth might not be enough to make you cum.
When you jerk off yourself, you’re using your hands obviously; you’re not actually blowing yourself.
So, what will work best is a combination of her mouth and hands. A simple “touch my shaft” or “jerk me off while your mouth is on me”, is one way to tell her to use her hands. Two hands can be even better.
Hands can go up and down, they can rotate, they can change speeds, increase or decrease in pressure, or stack on top of one and another. Of course, her hands don’t need to just stay on your penis.
While her mouth is on your penis, her roving hands can go on your stomach, your balls, your thighs, your butt, or your chest.
She can even use her hands to touch herself at the same time giving you a show as well. Talk about a win-win situation!
Lube or spittlebug
You know what sucks, (no pun intended)? A blow job or hand job with not enough spit or lube.
A mouth on a wet cock is reminiscent of a moist vagina, so it’s important to make sure everything is well lubricated.
You don’t need lube here necessarily, just a lot of good old fashioned spit.
She might be loath to spit all over your penis, but for many men spitting on their member can be a major turn-on.
So when you start drying out, or she begins to reach for the lube, ask her to just spit on your dick.
If she really wants to use lube, there are many available on the market that you both might enjoy.
Different Varieties of lube
Flavored lube: With this, she can swirl over your penis like icing. That way you can have fun watching her swirl it around your member. The only drawback is that it can become too sticky. The key is to not let it get anywhere else. Nothing worse than sticky sheets.
Water-based lube: These lubes are easy to clean but they dry easy so you’re going to need a lot of it to keep going.
Silicone lubricant: The wetness of silicone will last longer, but ingesting too much of it might make your partner sick.
Warming lubricants: These lubes warm up when you place them on your body. You might want to try a test patch with these first, as some people find these lubes a little too intense.
How to use the naughty tongue
Now that all the semantics are out of the way, let’s get down to the real nitty-gritty; how to actually teach your woman the best blowjob techniques that’ll drive you crazy:
Step 1: Opening the mouth
Opening her mouth in an “O” shape she can slowly take your penis into her mouth, licking the frenulum and playing with moving the head around her lips and licking the shaft.
Her tongue doesn’t just have to lick you in an up and down motion. She can move her tongue in circular motions, massaging your penis with it, and flicking her tongue as well.
Pushing your penis against your stomach she can lick the underside as well.
From here she can lick the corona, play with the frenulum, all the while playing with and touching your shaft. Next, she can start to mimic thrusting by taking your dick in and out of her mouth.
Step 2: Using Her Hands
Keeping one hand at the base of your shaft, she can start bobbing up and down on your penis as the other hand goes up and down or makes twisting motions.
Taking it a step further, she can use one hand to massage the perineum or stimulate the prostate (more on that later) as she’s going down on you.
Step 3: The Balls
The often neglected balls need some attention too. She can give them love by sucking on them (known as “tea bagging”), swirling them around in her mouth, or playing with the skin in between.
She can also play with them as she’s blowing you as well.
Step 4: Putting it All Together
So she has the basics down; lube, tongue, toys, balls, hands. All she has to do now is put that together in a way that’s pleasing to you and poof! Orgasm.
Some additions
The important thing to remember is when she gets in a steady rhythm that is working, it’s up to you to let her know that she’s on the right track and she should keep going.
Even if she executed everything perfectly, you wouldn’t want her to behave like a robot the whole time.
Sex with a partner you love dearly is a combination of physical desire and emotional connection.
To enhance this, it’s best to savor each other going slowly, and taking the time to really play and explore with each other is what will make this an amazing sexual experience.
Now that she’s great at oral sex don’t forget to reciprocate when the time comes.
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