Porn: The sexual teacher of the last generations

Pornography as the new teacher of sexuality…

I remember being a young girl, the first time I masturbated in front of a computer screen. We only had one computer at home, so I had to be careful and alone when doing it.

While pornography, with its intense depictions of sex, is nothing new, how we interact with it after the millennium is. Today, you don’t have to worry about collecting money from your parents and asking your friend over 18 to buy you a Playboy or Penthouse magazine.

The digital age has made it possible to get every type of pornography imaginable, for free, in a matter of seconds. It is therefore worth examining whether, as a generation raised in the glitter of internet porn, younger generations have related to their sexuality in fundamentally different ways.

The sexuality “teacher” at hand

“I was just trying to figure out how things would work out,” a millennial customer tells me. Most of the other kids at my school were virgins when we watched Xtube and Brazzers fill in the blanks left by school sex education programs.

“Pornography showed me what sex could be” and if I had any questions, the internet was there to answer.

If you watch any porn scene, there is the guy who sticks his penis in his partner’s vagina a bunch of times, and she just moans and screams … and then when you’re in bed with a real girl, you realize that things are a way more different.

Female actresses in straight porn are notoriously vocal, expressing satisfaction with their scene partners in exaggerated ways. While this is certainly a choice encouraged by directors, it can foster unrealistic expectations of sexual response.

It is in this capacity that online pornography can become a dangerous tool, a negligent educator feeding its viewer’s false descriptions of sex.

Young people naturally internalize what they see, especially if it is the only action they know. This can send the message that this type of behavior is acceptable without consent and, worse, that women expect it.

Who is porn made for?

Most of the videos seem to favor the fantasies of one gender over the other, and the women act as a vessel for the satisfaction of their male partners. In mainstream pornography, it is not unusual to see an actress choke on the actor’s penis while he yells “dirty whore” among other dirty expressions.

The artists involved likely planned this exchange, and this behavior would be fine if consent was reiterated on screen. However, it almost never is. And it is not likely that a young man, with an erection in hand while he watches this interaction on his laptop, is going to consider under judgment whether or not what he sees is correct, he just wants instant satisfaction.

If this is the case, is it possible that pornography is conditioning a generation of boys to believe that this dynamic is the norm and that a generation of girls expect it?

While not all porn features male-favored circumstances, female-centric content is less popular with male viewers.

But not everything is bad in pornography

For a generation going through puberty with a monitor available, the discovery of pornography often coincides with the discoveries of our bodies: to openly condemn pornography is to ignore a vital component of the sexual development of the new generations.

For many now, the erotic exploration begins in front of a computer or cell phone screen; our lust acting as a compass as we navigate the hidden depths of the world web. This demystified sex introduces many to future problems that they will have to face, and in some cases, it also helps a lot to discover their sexuality and for some, even their sexual orientation.

While older generations (and even some of our own ranks of age) will never tire of labeling today’s youth as emotionally stunted, it seems that much of what this generation craves sexually is the truths of real-life sex. : messy and clumsy intimacy as we have all experienced at the beginning of our sexual lives, at least while they get the experience that only time gives.

¿Asistirás a un evento Swinger? Hay algunas cosas que debes saber.

A muchas parejas o solteros les ha gustado incursionar en este tipo de estilo de vida de los Eventos Swinger. Las razones pueden ser muchas, tal vez porque quieres agregar “actividad fresca” a tu relación, o tal vez si estás soltero(a) y no quieres apego de ningún tipo esta es una buena práctica, -lejos de los prejuicios que pueda haber- creo que es bueno intentarlo al menos una vez en la vida, por supuesto manteniendo tu integridad emocional y física en todo momento.

Lo que necesitas saber antes de asistir a un evento Swinger.

Cada club tendrá su propio conjunto de reglas, pero casi todos siguen la etiqueta básica que expondré aquí.

Atuendo

Es importante que te preocupes por cómo estás vestido(a). La higiene es imprescindible y la ropa adecuada es importante. Hay situaciones en las que tu zona masculina no se ha afeitado y huele raro. Esto se aplica tanto a mujeres como a hombres. Debes asistir a estos eventos sabiendo que posiblemente tengas intimidad con alguien, así que vete preparado(a). Afeitarse, lavarse el pelo, cepillarse los dientes y llevar ropa acorde. También depende del lugar, hay lugares que piden estar semidesnudos desde que ingresas, así que finalmente la ropa de encima no importa demasiado, sin embargo usa siempre una muy buena y sexy ropa interior.

¿Alguna vez has escuchado que dicen “La mujer decide”?

En este estilo de vida, es costumbre que las mujeres comiencen una conversación entre ellas. Cuando las mujeres se sienten cómodas, la posibilidad de “jugar” tiene más posibilidades de que suceda y suceda con éxito.

Reglas de la casa

La mayoría de los clubes tendrán reglas similares, como no ingresar con teléfonos celulares, no fotos, no tocar a nadie y no auto-invitarse a una “situación de juego”. Si el juego es participar en una sala de juegos y la puerta está abierta, entonces puedes observar, pero no te acerques tanto como para respirarles en la nuca y, lo más importante: sin conversar.

¿Hay comida o bebida?

Casi todos los clubes son de “trae tu propia botella” y proporcionarán mezcladores. Algunos tendrán bocadillos y algunos incluso ofrecerán la cena.

¿Qué deberías traer contigo?

La mayoría de los clubes proporcionan sábanas limpias, toallas, lubricante y condones, sin embargo, siempre lleva una bolsa de juego contigo por si acaso. Además, trae tu dotación de alcohol, y si te gusta una mezcla especial que no sea común, tráela también.

Cuida tu consumo de alcohol

Nadie quiere tener intimidad con un ebrio. Es importante mantener el ritmo y beber mucha agua. No quieres adquirir una mala reputación.
Y cuidado con lo que bebes, es importante checar la veracidad del club y quienes te han invitado la primera vez -y más si eres mujer- porque tu seguridad es importante, si es posible no vayas sola y mantente alerta echando ojo a tu bebida en todo momento.

Comunicación

Tú y tu pareja deben estar en la misma página. Ambos deben estar de acuerdo para que ocurra una situación de “juego”. También deben discutir entre ustedes las reglas que tienen y, después de la sesión de juego, deben discutir lo que se disfrutó y lo que no. Nadie en el club quiere involucrarse en ningún drama, así que recuerden dejar las discusiones en casa.

Intercambiando información personal

Ok, esto es diferente dependiendo del club. Hay lugares donde te piden utilizar un nombre falso y que nunca des tu número de teléfono a una pareja que conociste en el club.

Sin embargo, en algunos clubes exclusivos de alto nivel, en ellos puedes usar tu sentido común y, después de todo, todos ahí querrán proteger su privacidad, así que si te encuentras con alguien a quien deseas volver a ver, intercambia información pero con reservas.

Si te olvidas de hacer esto y luego te comunicas con el dueño del club, lo más probable es que le pasen tu información a la otra pareja. Aunque lo más saludable es nunca dar información personal.

Con suerte, esto te ayudará a comprender mejor qué esperar y qué reglas seguir cuando elijas embarcarte en tu primera fiesta swinger.

Como complemento a este post te dejo por acá un post de la página de Romina, en donde puedes leer más sobre las reuniones swinger.

Attending a Swinger Party? Here’s what you should know

Swinger Party /What you should know . Photo by Ibolya Toldi from Pexels

Many couples or singles have liked to enter this type of lifestyle. There are many reasons, maybe because you want to add “fresh activity” to your relationship, or perhaps if you are single and don’t want attachment of any kind this is a good practice, far from prejudices that there may be, I think it is a good practice to try at least once in your life, of course maintaining your emotional and physical integrity at all times.

What you need to know before attending a Swinger Event

Each lifestyle club will have its own set of rules but almost all follow the basic etiquette which I will lay out here.

Attire

It is important you care about how you are dressed. Hygiene is a must and nice clothes are important. There are situations where the male half has not shaved and he smells funny. This goes for both females and males. You need to attend these events knowing that you might possibly be intimate with someone so be prepared. Shave, wash your hair, brush your teeth and wear nice clothes, also depends on the place.

There are places that ask to be semi-naked since you enter, so finally, the top clothes don’t matter too much, however, use always really nice sexy underwear.

Have you ever heard people say “The woman decides”

In the swinger lifestyle, it is customary that the ladies begin a conversation with each other. When the ladies are comfortable then the possibility of “play” has more of a chance of happening and happening successfully.

Club Rules

Most clubs will have similar rules such as no cell phones, no photos, do not touch anyone, and do not invite yourself into a “play situation”. I

If play is partaking in a playroom and the door is open, it means they want to be watched but do not get so close you are breathing on them, and most important: no chatting.

Is there food or drinks?

Almost all clubs are BYOB and will provide mixers. Some will have snacks and some will even cater dinner.

Watch your alcohol Intake

No one wants to be intimate with a drunk. It is important to pace yourself and drink lots of water. You don’t want to create a bad reputation for yourself.
Be careful with what you drink, It is important that you check the veracity of the club and who has invited you. The first time -and more if you are a woman- your safety is important; if it’s possible do not go alone and stay alert by checking your drink at all times.

Communication

You and your partner must be on the same page and agree for a “play” situation to occur. Also, discuss with each other any rules you have after the play session. You need to discuss what you enjoyed and did not. You don’t want to be involved in any drama so remember to leave arguments at home.

Exchanging personal information

Ok, this is different depending on the club. There are places where they ask you to use a fake name and never give your phone number to a couple you met at the club. However, in some high-end exclusive clubs, you can use your common sense there, and everyone wants to protect their privacy after all, so if you run into someone you want to see again, exchange information under caution. If you forget to do this and then contact the club owner, they will most likely pass your information on to the other couple. But the healthiest thing is to never give out personal information.

Hopefully, this will help you have a better understanding of what to expect; and what rules to follow when you do choose to embark on your first swinger party.

If you want to know more about swinger lifestyle, I suggest this publication by Victoria.

Enséñale a tu chica cómo darte el mejor sexo oral que hayas tenido

Recibir una “mamada” de la mujer que amas es como un sueño para la mayoría de los hombres.

Tu pareja puede tener las mejores intenciones cuando se trata de sexo oral, pero puede haber algo que simplemente se está perdiendo. Quizás su técnica no sea tan buena. Tal vez sea tímida. Tal vez no use suficiente variedad. Puede ser intimidante para ella aprender nuevas técnicas de dar una ‘mamada’ al principio, pero una vez que aprenda lo que le estimula, se sentirá como una diosa sexual sabiendo que puede hacer que te vengas en su boca.

El sexo oral en un hombre incluye lamer y chupar el pene, las bolas y el ano. Fellatio es el término para la estimulación oral del pene, mientras que Analingus es el término para el sexo oral en el ano.
Si bien las ‘mamadas’ se consideran bastante emocionantes, “comerse el culo” y la estimulación de la próstata es más una actividad de nicho. A algunos hombres les encanta, mientras que otros podrían aceptarlo o de plano dejarlo de lado.

Ten en cuenta que cada hombre es diferente. Entonces, solo porque lo que ella está haciendo no te eleva al cielo NO SIGNIFICA QUE NO ES BUENA o que no esté entusiasmada con darte una mamada.
Podría significar que está acostumbrada a algo diferente. La clave entonces es lograr que ella también disfrute del acto y no solo que se sienta como un deber.

Preparativos iniciales

La clave del disfrute para la mayoría de los hombres es si a ella le gusta o no. Seamos realistas, hay una razón por la que se le llama “blowjob”; “job” porque implica algo de trabajo y puede lastimarse la mandíbula si lo hace más tiempo del suficiente. Incluso si disfruta practicando sexo oral, no está de más aumentar su entusiasmo. ¿Cómo haces eso? Fácil. Cuando ella esté allí saboreando tus partes masculinas, dile lo caliente y lo exitado que estás. Actúa como su propio porrista personal. Cuanto más emocionado estés, más emocionada estará ella de seguir adelante.

Gruñidos, pero de puro placer

Este no es el momento para que ella se quede callada. Esos sonidos de gorgoteo, viscosos, son indudablemente excitantes.
Dile lo sexy que suena gruñendo y gimiendo de placer. Y no te olvides de gemir con ella para que se sienta más cómoda y desinhibida.

Sigue mirando

El contacto visual es fundamental durante el sexo oral. Hace toda la diferencia entre una sesión de sexo oral regular y una increíble. El contacto visual dice: “¡Tengo confianza!” “¡Estoy tan excitada!” “¡Estoy tan excitada y lista!” Así que dile que te mire. O levanta su barbilla y dile que te encanta cuando te mira.

Enséñale variedad

Simplemente el subir y bajar es tan interesante como comer el mismo plato de mole para la cena todas las noches. Es completamente aburrido. Ella puede mover sus labios. Puede intentar hacer “un garganta profunda”. O rodearte con su lengua. Lamiendo el eje. No se trata solo de saltar de un movimiento a otro como un robot.

Sin embargo, debería estar lista para sacar todo lo que hay en su bolsa de trucos de mamadas. Hay literalmente un millón de formas de hacer una mamada, así que anímala a probar cosas nuevas.

Juego previo

Puede que esté lista para el evento principal, pero eso no significa que tenga que ir directamente sin calentamiento ni juegos previos.

Después de todo, si solo quisieras concentrarte en el acto en sí, podrías jalártela tu solo, al mirar porno por tu cuenta. Pero tienes ahí un compañera deliciosa y dispuesta, por lo que los dos pueden hacer los juegos más prolongados.

Deja que te rasque los muslos y los lama lentamente. Incluso puede empezar a jugar contigo mientras todavía estás en bóxers.

Antes de comenzar, habla sobre lo que le excita. El solo hecho de repasar algunos de los aspectos básicos puede prepararla para una gran noche de sexo.

Juegos de manos son de villanos

Antes de cualquier duda sobre esta frase, es importante destacar que la acepción de “villanos” en este dicho es diferente al que se piensa o utiliza actualmente. En épocas antiguas, cuando se acuñó la frase, se conocía de esta manera a quienes simplemente vivían en una “villa”, o aldea.

Una vez compartido el abreviado cultural… prosigo:

Simplemente chuparte con su boca podría no ser suficiente para hacerte correr.

Cuando te masturbas, obviamente usas tus manos.

Entonces, lo que funcionará mejor es una combinación de boca y manos. Un simple toque a la punta de tu pene o masturbarte mientras su boca está sobre ti, es una forma de decirle que use la mano. Las dos manos pueden ser incluso mejores.

Las manos pueden subir y bajar, pueden girar, pueden cambiar de velocidad, aumentar o disminuir la presión, o apilarse una encima de otra. Por supuesto, sus manos no necesitan quedarse simplemente en tu pene.

Mientras su boca está sobre tu pene, sus manos errantes pueden ir sobre tu estómago, tus bolas, tus muslos, tus nalgas o tu pecho.

Incluso puede usar sus manos para tocarse a sí misma al mismo tiempo, brindándote un espectáculo. ¡Habla de una situación en la que ganar-ganar!

Lubricante o salivazo

¿Sabes lo que apesta (sin juego de palabras)? Una mamada o una paja sin saliva ni lubricante suficiente.
Un pene en una boca recuerda a una vagina húmeda, por lo que es importante asegurarse de que todo esté bien lubricado.

No necesitas lubricante aquí necesariamente, solo un montón de saliva a la antigua.

Ella puede ser reacia a escupir todo tu pene, pero para muchos hombres escupir en su miembro puede ser muy excitante.

Entonces, cuando comiences a secarte, o ella comience a perder el lubricación, pídele que te escupe en la pene.

Si ella realmente quiere usar lubricante, hay muchos disponibles en el mercado que ambos pueden disfrutar.

Diferentes variedades de lubricantes


Lubricante con sabor: con esto, ella puede girar chupando alrededor de tu pene como si fuera un caramelo. De esa manera, puedes divertirte viéndola girar su lengua alrededor de tu miembro. El único inconveniente es que puede volverse demasiado pegajoso. La clave es no dejar que llegue a ningún otro lado. Nada peor que sábanas pegajosas.

Lubricante a base de agua: estos lubricantes son fáciles de limpiar pero se secan fácilmente, por lo que necesitarás mucho para que siga funcionando.

Lubricante de silicona: la humedad de la silicona durará más, pero ingerir demasiado podría enfermar a tu pareja.

Lubricantes de temperatura: estos lubricantes se calientan cuando los coloca sobre tu cuerpo. Es posible que desees probar un poco en un área pequeña con estos primero, ya que algunas personas encuentran estos lubricantes un poco demasiado intensos.

La traviesa lengua

Ahora que toda la semántica está fuera del camino, vayamos al meollo del asunto; cómo enseñarle a tu mujer las mejores técnicas de mamada que te volverán loco.

Paso 1: Abre la boca (obvio)
Al abrir la boca en forma de “O”, puede llevarse lentamente el pene a la boca, lamiendo el frenillo y jugando, moviendo la cabeza alrededor de sus labios y lamiendo el eje.

Su lengua no solo tiene que lamerte con un movimiento hacia arriba y hacia abajo. Ella puede mover su lengua en movimientos circulares, masajeando tu pene con ella y moviendo su lengua también.

Levantando tu pene contra tu estómago, ella también puede lamer la parte inferior.

Desde aquí puede lamer la corona, jugar con el frenillo, mientras juega y toca tu eje. A continuación, puede empezar a imitar las embestidas metiendo y sacando tu pene de su boca.

Paso 2: Usar sus manos
Manteniendo una mano en la base de su eje, ella puede comenzar a moverse hacia arriba y hacia abajo en tu pene mientras la otra mano sube y baja o hace movimientos de torsión.

Yendo un paso más allá, puede usar una mano para masajear el perineo o estimular la próstata (más sobre eso en el siguiente post) mientras se posa sobre ti.

Paso 3: Las bolas!
Las ‘bolas’ o testículos a menudo olvidados también necesitan algo de atención. Ella puede darles amor chupándolos (conocido como “bolsitas de té”), haciéndolos girar en su boca o jugando con la piel en el medio.

Ella también puede jugar con ellos mientras te la está mamando.

Paso 4: Poniéndo todo junto
Entonces ella tiene lo básico; lubricante, lengua, juguetes, testiculos, manos. ¡Todo lo que tiene que hacer ahora es armar eso de una manera que te agrade y puf! Orgasmo.

Lo importante que debes recordar es que cuando se pone en un ritmo constante que está funcionando, depende de ti hacerle saber que está en el camino correcto y que debe seguir adelante.

Algunas últimas adiciones

Incluso si ejecutó todo a la perfección, no querrás que se comporte como un robot todo el tiempo.

El sexo con una pareja que amas mucho es una combinación de deseo físico y conexión emocional.

Para mejorar esto, lo mejor es saborearse el uno al otro yendo lentamente y tomarse el tiempo para jugar y explorarse realmente entre sí es lo que hará de esta una experiencia sexual increíble.

Ahora que ella es excelente en el sexo oral, no olvides corresponder cuando llegue el momento.

Teach her to give you the best blowjob of your life

Getting a blowjob from the woman you love is like dream for most men. So you can teach her to give you the best oral sex of your life.

Your partner may have the best of intentions when it comes to oral sex, but there might be something she’s just missing.

Maybe her technique isn’t so great, maybe she’s timid, or maybe she doesn’t use enough variety. It may be intimidating for her to learn new blowjob techniques at first, but once she gets the hang of what stimulates you, she will feel like a sexual goddess knowing that she can make you come all by herself.

Oral sex on a male includes licking and sucking of the penis, balls, and anus. Fellatio is the term for the oral stimulation of the penis while analingus is the term for oral sex on the anus.
While blowjobs are considered rather exciting, “eating ass” and prostate stimulation are more of niche activity. Some men love it, while others could take it or leave it.

Keep in mind that every man is different. So just because what she is doing doesn’t take you to the roof DOESN’T MEAN SHE IS NOT GOOD or enthusiastic about giving your blowjob.
It could just mean she’s used to something different. The key is to get her to enjoy the act too and not just make it feel like a chore.

Starting preparations

The key to enjoyment for most men is whether she’s into it or not. Let’s face it, there’s a reason it’s called a blow “job”; it does entail some work and it can hurt her jaw if she goes at it long enough.

Even if she does enjoy performing oral sex, it can’t hurt to bump up her enthusiasm. How do you do that? Easy. When she’s down there savoring your man parts, tell her how hot she is and how turned you are. Act as her own personal cheerleader. The more excited you are, the more excited she will be to keep going.

Grunting, but out of sheer pleasure

This is not the time for her to keep quiet. Those gurgling, slurpy, sounds are undoubtedly hot.

Tell her how sexy she sounds moaning and groaning her enjoyment. And don’t forget to moan along with her so she feels more comfortable letting loose.

Keep looking

Eye contact is critical during oral sex. It makes all the difference between a so-so oral sex session and an amazing one. Eye contact says, “I’m confident!” “I’m so turned on!” “I’m so aroused and ready!” So tell her to look at you. Or lift her chin up and tell her you to love it when she looks at you.

Just bobbing up and down is about as interesting as eating the same chicken soup for dinner every night. It’s flat-out boring. She can move her lips. She can try deep throating. Or circling her tongue. Licking the shaft. This is not about just hopping from a move to move like an erratic robot.

Teach variety

However, she should be ready to pull out everything in her bag of blow job tricks. There are literally a million and one ways to mix up a blow job so encourage her to try new things.

Foreplay

She may be all ready for the main event, but that doesn’t mean she has to go right to it with no warm-up or foreplay.

After all, if you just wanted to focus on the act itself you could jerk off or watch porn on your own. You have a delicious willing partner, so the two of you can engage in extended play.

Let her scratch your thighs and lick them slowly. She can even start playing with you while you’re still in your boxers. Finesse and teasing go along way when it comes to a good session in the sack.

Before you begin, talk about what turns you on. Just going over some of the basics can get her ready for a great sex night.

Using hands makes a big difference

Just sucking you off with her mouth might not be enough to make you cum.

When you jerk off yourself, you’re using your hands obviously; you’re not actually blowing yourself.

So, what will work best is a combination of her mouth and hands. A simple “touch my shaft” or “jerk me off while your mouth is on me”, is one way to tell her to use her hands. Two hands can be even better.

Hands can go up and down, they can rotate, they can change speeds, increase or decrease in pressure, or stack on top of one and another. Of course, her hands don’t need to just stay on your penis.

While her mouth is on your penis, her roving hands can go on your stomach, your balls, your thighs, your butt, or your chest.

She can even use her hands to touch herself at the same time giving you a show as well. Talk about a win-win situation!

Lube or spittlebug

You know what sucks, (no pun intended)? A blow job or hand job with not enough spit or lube.
A mouth on a wet cock is reminiscent of a moist vagina, so it’s important to make sure everything is well lubricated.

You don’t need lube here necessarily, just a lot of good old fashioned spit.

She might be loath to spit all over your penis, but for many men spitting on their member can be a major turn-on.

So when you start drying out, or she begins to reach for the lube, ask her to just spit on your dick.

If she really wants to use lube, there are many available on the market that you both might enjoy.

Different Varieties of lube

Flavored lube: With this, she can swirl over your penis like icing. That way you can have fun watching her swirl it around your member. The only drawback is that it can become too sticky. The key is to not let it get anywhere else. Nothing worse than sticky sheets.

Water-based lube: These lubes are easy to clean but they dry easy so you’re going to need a lot of it to keep going.

Silicone lubricant: The wetness of silicone will last longer,  but ingesting too much of it might make your partner sick.

Warming lubricants: These lubes warm up when you place them on your body. You might want to try a test patch with these first, as some people find these lubes a little too intense.

How to use the naughty tongue

Now that all the semantics are out of the way, let’s get down to the real nitty-gritty; how to actually teach your woman the best blowjob techniques that’ll drive you crazy:

Step 1: Opening the mouth

Opening her mouth in an “O” shape she can slowly take your penis into her mouth, licking the frenulum and playing with moving the head around her lips and licking the shaft.

Her tongue doesn’t just have to lick you in an up and down motion. She can move her tongue in circular motions, massaging your penis with it, and flicking her tongue as well.

Pushing your penis against your stomach she can lick the underside as well.

From here she can lick the corona, play with the frenulum, all the while playing with and touching your shaft. Next, she can start to mimic thrusting by taking your dick in and out of her mouth.

Step 2: Using Her Hands

Keeping one hand at the base of your shaft, she can start bobbing up and down on your penis as the other hand goes up and down or makes twisting motions.

Taking it a step further, she can use one hand to massage the perineum or stimulate the prostate (more on that later) as she’s going down on you.

Step 3: The Balls

The often neglected balls need some attention too. She can give them love by sucking on them (known as “tea bagging”), swirling them around in her mouth, or playing with the skin in between.

She can also play with them as she’s blowing you as well.

Step 4: Putting it All Together

So she has the basics down; lube, tongue, toys, balls, hands. All she has to do now is put that together in a way that’s pleasing to you and poof! Orgasm.

Some additions

The important thing to remember is when she gets in a steady rhythm that is working, it’s up to you to let her know that she’s on the right track and she should keep going.

Even if she executed everything perfectly, you wouldn’t want her to behave like a robot the whole time.

Sex with a partner you love dearly is a combination of physical desire and emotional connection.

To enhance this, it’s best to savor each other going slowly, and taking the time to really play and explore with each other is what will make this an amazing sexual experience.

Now that she’s great at oral sex don’t forget to reciprocate when the time comes.

Casual Sex? There are rules to follow

Have you been in a casual hookup? If that is the case, you are not alone. 

Studies show that a lot of people are getting into no commitment thing as opposed to attachment relationships. It does not matter your reason for wanting a casual hookup; the fact is that sex can spice up your life.   If you have decided to embark on this adventure with all that it entails, It is a good idea to develop some rules you need to follow to avoid getting strings attached and even get the most out of the relationship.

Find the Right Person

In a casual sex relationship, getting the right person has another meaning different from a romantic relationship. Remember that you are not looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right. Instead, you are looking for a person to have great sex with. That means you need to skip your close friends and office colleagues, as things get weird afterward. You need to hook up with people you do not know that well. Even if that does not work, there are many online dating websites for casual hookups.

Set Some Ground Rules

Although some rules look like killing the enjoyment of casual sex relationships, you may regret not having some rules from the start.

Stay Safe

Remember that casual sex is not about getting everything casual, right? You should not get swiped into excitement and forget how important it is to have protected sex. Any sex that you practice should have zero strings attached and always protected. It does not matter whether you are exclusive or not; you need to look for different ways to protect yourself and your partner from STDs and unwanted pregnancies. If you are not sure what the best birth control method is, you need to talk to your doctor, and you will get relevant advice.

Leave Your Emotions Behind

You should note that casual sex relationships do work when both sides agree to put their emotions aside. In most cases, both individuals know why they are getting together to enjoy sex. Do not be fooled that it will get into something more lasting because chances are; it won’t. Since you will spend adequate time with another person, you might end up liking some of them. That is where things start to become messy. Even if you end up developing emotions, do not go ahead and say an “I love you” statement.

How is the experience of receiving an erotic massage?

First, you need to take a shower. Alone, or with a masseuse, it’s up to you, but water is an excellent conductor of energy and hygiene is important, not just for the masseuse but for your confidence during the session and it is underwater jets that the first negative emotions disappear.  Next, the masseuse will slowly begin to massage the most problematic areas of the client’s body. Erotic massage should bring the client to the brink of complete relaxation when feelings are sharpened to the limit, and every touch begins to excite. This is a struggle of opposites, on the one hand, relaxation, on the other a strong excitement, which ultimately translates into a powerful orgasm.

Erotic massage is a whole art, an extraordinary philosophy of love. It should be performed efficiently and beautifully. Not only men can enjoy it, but also women and half of humanity… I suggest. The main thing is the desire to enjoy, relax, enjoy, and be able to feel your body. After the process, you will not be the same and you can get rid of the complexes that confused you earlier.

It is not related to sexual contact and it is not rough primitive sex, as some belief. It is aimed at the sexual rapture, which is achieved through exquisite and gentle caresses. In addition to the beneficial effects on health, this procedure calms a person, and therefore positively contributes to his emotional component.

The atmosphere always plays an important role in a relaxation massage session no matter the place, if it’s in a salon or in the comfort of your room or a hotel, the masseuse should try to offer service at the highest level, which means that the client is already immersed in the world of attention and care from the very threshold of the entrance. A comfortable couch or bed, dim light awaits him in the massage parlor. Nothing should distract the person from receiving pleasure.  Further, relaxation massage offers to conduct, coupled with some additions. For example, if you include elements of prostate massage or vagina, then relaxation takes on a completely different meaning, and the emotions from what happened will simply go through the roof.

The most interesting thing is that relaxation massage, designed to relax a man or a woman, at the same time excites him/her. Ejaculation, like the final chord of the whole action, crowns a complete thrill, which some clients did not expect to receive.